Family…. A ray of hope ….

Last year I had a major break down because of a heartbreak. I didn’t want to live; I was tired of crying and being alone. I had no one to open up to and also had a fear of getting judged by friends. Although few of them knew about my situation but never showed up and avoided to talk to me. I never felt like talking about what I was going through.

I started working but I couldn’t forget my past so I got involved with drugs and alcohol. And let’s be honest, apart from ruining my health it did no good but added to my trauma. No sooner than I realised I started taking interest in developing my new hobbies. I danced my misery away, got myself so busy with work that I was engaged with something or the other the whole time. Eventually I created a bond with my family discussing my daily whereabouts. Trust me, parents and siblings are possibly the best partners to share everything going on in your life.

After a yearlong, I am in a much better position mentally.

So here I suggest to those who are going through the similar situation or slightly similar thing, I would request you to stop being alone in a dark empty state instead keep yourself busy with things you like. Remember that it’s you, who can help yourself in a situation like this. Let’s not hide out there with the emotions bubbling inside.

There is a saying no one can heal you until you want yourself to be healed.

Impact of global pandemic on the youth

20/06/2020 No Comments

Youth are the growth factor for any country. They form a large portion of the population. India is one of countries where youth are in abundance. But due to the outbreak of Coronavirus, life has come to a standstill. Lockdown has damaged the economy and its adverse effects are felt by our youth. The unemployment rate is increasing at a jaw dropping rate. In the past three months youth of every country across the globe have lost their jobs. Companies have laid off a huge number of employees to cut down the costs and sustain in the market. Lots of youth who have retained their jobs despite facing huge pay cuts in salaries. Some of them have availed loans for various purposes. Many of them have taken up EMI schemes. But due to the Coronavirus they have lost their livelihood. They are not able to pay the loans and pay interest. For some, the situation is so dire that it has led them to commit suicide. Depression has taken deep roots in their life also affecting their loved ones.

The Awakening

19/06/2020 No Comments

I am Namita. (name changed) I lost my father when I was 18. I have a brother who is elder to me. I have completed my teacher training program and worked in School as a teacher. After a few years of experience, members of my family forced me to get married. In April 2018 I tied the knot with the person chosen by my family. In the beginning, life was very pleasant and smooth going. We went out in the evenings, had food outside, met friends and relatives. I felt very happy and thanked my mother for choosing the right person for life. As days passed, my husband started behaving strangely and showing his real character. but I did not change my attitude towards him. I tolerated everything and I lived with him. Then one fine day, like bolt from the blue, I got a call from a lady that my husband has an extramarital relationship with her for the last 7 years. Then I was shocked and felt very bad but even then I did not change my attitude and I loved him sincerely despite the fact which I was told on the telephone and continued to live with him. Then he started punishing me with physical torture as well as mental torture. I told him that I was pregnant thinking with this news he would stop torturing me but it was different. He tortured me more and more and I had a miscarriage. But in spite of all these atrocities I stayed with him and continued working in the school After some time, he forced me to leave the job but begged him to allow me to continue in the school. But again he started to give a lot of mental and physical torture to me. Then finally I decided to resign and came back to my mother. I did not lose heart nor did I worry about my past. I then decided to stand on my own legs with Education “the greatest asset” my parents had given me. I thought to myself why I should waste my life for a person who has no feelings, it is not worth it. I got a good job in a school and continuing as a teacher, enjoying with little children, forgetting all my past, dedicating my life to these children who are the future of our country. Thank you Secret Sharz for providing some space for persons like me to share all our problems with full confidence.

Relationships

18/06/2020 No Comments

I was about 15 years old when I got into my first one sided relationship. It was not a great one. The girl got to know and she said it was not going to go anywhere. I used to lie a lot during this time.