The struggles of being the eldest son

Hey, guys I have no great introduction for myself a normal guy getting to beat out from the odds.

Grew up in a disturbed and not a so loved family, abused, hurt, broken and bullied was the kind of tale every day. Grew up amongst a lot of challenges as people started following paths without knowledge and my interest, I blindly jumped into one without any guidance and support not knowing what my interest was and I didn’t have any skills as the others did. Nobody tried to talk and speak to me in those days when I was growing. These challenges were surely hurting and mentally disturbing since people are keenly and openly talking about it these days after we lost a dear one, which has given me a great sense of shock and grief and I’m trying to get over it. Had a failed relationship and went into depression for years was also the case.

What I’m trying to convey to everyone is amongst all these odds there is a lesson, or an insight hiding behind it for us to understand that everything would not come to us very easily and requires a lot of patience and support As we grow life becomes hard, but we should not lose hope for there is always a better tomorrow. Learn from these things, talk to people understand what’s wrong, comfort the person who’s in pain and agony for our country takes mental health on a very low grade, it’s okay to talk about it to the person you trust.

Remember the pain, today you have felt there is something good and nice going to happen there will be a person who you will meet, who listens to you and appreciate you. Few people have truly helped me in my journey.

Secret Sharz is doing an exceptional good job by reaching out to people in distress and in need for persons like me who was a victim of mental health and abuse. Communication among your family friends or closed and loved ones is very important I believe it’s the strongest weapon one could ever have. Remember what the legend had said before he left the world. ‘You are not Alone’.

Impact of global pandemic on the youth

20/06/2020 No Comments

Youth are the growth factor for any country. They form a large portion of the population. India is one of countries where youth are in abundance. But due to the outbreak of Coronavirus, life has come to a standstill. Lockdown has damaged the economy and its adverse effects are felt by our youth. The unemployment rate is increasing at a jaw dropping rate. In the past three months youth of every country across the globe have lost their jobs. Companies have laid off a huge number of employees to cut down the costs and sustain in the market. Lots of youth who have retained their jobs despite facing huge pay cuts in salaries. Some of them have availed loans for various purposes. Many of them have taken up EMI schemes. But due to the Coronavirus they have lost their livelihood. They are not able to pay the loans and pay interest. For some, the situation is so dire that it has led them to commit suicide. Depression has taken deep roots in their life also affecting their loved ones.

The Awakening

19/06/2020 No Comments

I am Namita. (name changed) I lost my father when I was 18. I have a brother who is elder to me. I have completed my teacher training program and worked in School as a teacher. After a few years of experience, members of my family forced me to get married. In April 2018 I tied the knot with the person chosen by my family. In the beginning, life was very pleasant and smooth going. We went out in the evenings, had food outside, met friends and relatives. I felt very happy and thanked my mother for choosing the right person for life. As days passed, my husband started behaving strangely and showing his real character. but I did not change my attitude towards him. I tolerated everything and I lived with him. Then one fine day, like bolt from the blue, I got a call from a lady that my husband has an extramarital relationship with her for the last 7 years. Then I was shocked and felt very bad but even then I did not change my attitude and I loved him sincerely despite the fact which I was told on the telephone and continued to live with him. Then he started punishing me with physical torture as well as mental torture. I told him that I was pregnant thinking with this news he would stop torturing me but it was different. He tortured me more and more and I had a miscarriage. But in spite of all these atrocities I stayed with him and continued working in the school After some time, he forced me to leave the job but begged him to allow me to continue in the school. But again he started to give a lot of mental and physical torture to me. Then finally I decided to resign and came back to my mother. I did not lose heart nor did I worry about my past. I then decided to stand on my own legs with Education “the greatest asset” my parents had given me. I thought to myself why I should waste my life for a person who has no feelings, it is not worth it. I got a good job in a school and continuing as a teacher, enjoying with little children, forgetting all my past, dedicating my life to these children who are the future of our country. Thank you Secret Sharz for providing some space for persons like me to share all our problems with full confidence.

Relationships

18/06/2020 No Comments

I was about 15 years old when I got into my first one sided relationship. It was not a great one. The girl got to know and she said it was not going to go anywhere. I used to lie a lot during this time.